My husband will be 30 this year and his mother still has his tricycle and many of his toys from when he was a baby and a small child. She also still has some of his clothing. She still has his bronzed baby shoes on display in the living room, and she even has a lock of his hair (from when he was a toddler) saved in a baggie. I think this is so weird. I could see maybe one or two things, but why would she still be holding on to all this?
Is it normal for a mother to still be holding on to her child%26#039;s toys for memories?
Oh hun yes hold onto as much as you can because they grow soooooo damn fast
Reply:It%26#039;s her life, her memories. Some people like tangible reminders of the important things in their past. Some don%26#039;t.
It%26#039;s not weird. It%26#039;s just what%26#039;s important to her, what makes her feel content.
Reply:Yes, its normal. Well maybe its a lost art. Looking at baby books now they aren%26#039;t like the baby books of past. My baby book from the seventies has a glued envelope for the lock of hair from your first hair cut. Saving a few special items to pass down to the grandchildren is very common. In fact my favorite stuff to use now are the family heirlooms. High chair my brothers used. Christening gowns and little tennis shoes. Wooden cradles and rocking chairs, afghans and blankets.
Its a shame our culture has succumbed to this buy it, use it and trash it mentality. It really is a shame.
Reply:It%26#039;s perfectly normal. Sometimes it%26#039;s fun to go back and look at your favorite childhood things. My mom kept a lot of me and my sister%26#039;s toys. My dad would throw it in the garbage can and my mom would take it out and put it away.
I keep all my children%26#039;s items from their firsts. My 13 year old loves to open up her bag of stuff and look at it.
I think it%26#039;s weird not to.
Reply:My husband%26#039;s mother saved a lot of the same things too. I find myself doing the same thing with some of my child%26#039;s things.
Reply:Are you kidding?? Of course it%26#039;s normal. I have the locks of hair from the first haircut my girls got, I have their %26quot;blankies%26quot; that they just couldn%26#039;t part with until they were big girls..I have outfits from when they were tiny and first came home from the hospital...hospital ID bracelets...and the list goes on and on. We hold onto them because we see them grow soooo fast and just want something to hold onto from that time in their life. You probably don%26#039;t have children yet so you wouldn%26#039;t know, but just wait till you have yours, you%26#039;ll be saving all sorts of things too!!
Reply:the baby shoes yes on a plaque
the lock of hair yes in a scrapbook
the tricycle and toys no unless she has a garage with unlimited space.
if she dose where can i get one?
Reply:I guess I am weird then!
I have a lock of each of my kids hair (from their 1st haircut) in each of their baby books.
I keep some pictures that they drew from each year of their life (it%26#039;s fun to look at them and see how their ability changes from year to year).
I have every Mother%26#039;s Day gift they have ever given me (even the tennis balls, and I don%26#039;t play tennis but they are what my daughter wanted to give me).
I have the outfit each of my children came home from the hospital in, they are all tucked away.
I have a few pieces of clothing that were their favorite for some reason, I haven%26#039;t decided what I want to do with them yet.
My mother in law kept a whole pile of my husband%26#039;s blue jeans, she has now made quilts for our son%26#039;s beds out of them. They think it%26#039;s soooo cool to have daddy%26#039;s jeans on their beds.
My parents kept some of our toys (some of them are worth some money now!) and my kids play with them when they go there.
Maybe you aren%26#039;t someone that likes to do this, but I don%26#039;t know many parents that haven%26#039;t got boxes of stuff somewhere. Just because it%26#039;s on display doesn%26#039;t make it weird, she is saying that she is proud of her son!
Reply:i dont think its strange to keep things like a few of the outfits and a lock of hair, or the bronze shoes. that was HER baby and she will always look at him like that. hopefully all of the stuff is not out on display bc that may be a little obsessive but i think its perfectly normal. and how do you know shes not saving those toys for his baby someday?
who knows, but every mom saves stuff. they r only little once and we know they will grow up and leave us. so one day, she can sit down and pull this stuff out and remember when he was HER (little) man, instead of yours.
i guarantee you your own mothe rprob has some of your stuff. leave her be and look at it differently. its good, it shows she loves her son!
good luck and congrats if pregger.
Reply:I don%26#039;t see anything weird about it. Those things bring back fond memories of her precious baby. Even though he%26#039;s 30, he%26#039;ll always be her baby. There%26#039;s just no getting around it. Accept it and appreciate the love she has for him, then let everything else go. Your relationship with DH and your mil will be much happier if you stop thinking of how weird her behavior is (even when it%26#039;s REALLY weird) and just love her for who she is.
Reply:My only problem would be with them being on display in the living room. But basically, it%26#039;s her business I guess.
Reply:Maybe she is saving them for her grandchildren!
Reply:Spoken like someone who has never raised a child. It%26#039;s perfectly normal and very common for a mother to save things. I have a lock of my son%26#039;s hair from his first haircut, his first pair of shoes, and many toys and clothing items. I%26#039;m holding onto them because he will always be my baby to me, and I want to remember his childhood. Something as seemingly insignificant as a little pair of shoes is priceless to a loving mom.
Reply:My parents kept a lot of toys and stuff.. Now they%26#039;re getting played with by their grandson when he comes to visit.
Everyone%26#039;s different, some of us are a lot more pack-rat like then others. That%26#039;s just the personality type you%26#039;re born with. Heck, I have some of my old dogs toys.. I hate to think what I%26#039;ll save if we ever have kids.. lol
Reply:I have a small box for each of my children. In it I have a couple of favorite toys(mostly stuffed animals that they carried everywhere) and a few pieces of clothing and their first shoes. I also have a small file folder for each of their school years for pictures they drew, report cards and such. When my last child was born, my MIL gave me a teddy bear (patches and all) that was my husbands favorite. I had it shadow boxed and it still hangs in my daughters room.
I think keeping everything is a bit much. Just my opinion.
Reply:yes its normal i secretly have all my kids old toys in the attic even though they are in there teens its nice to have memories of the children u gave birth too.
Reply:I am 37 and my sisters and brother in their 40%26#039;s and my mother still has special toys of ours put away and locks of hair, special outfits etc. My oldest is almost 16 and I have a lock of hair from her first haircut, the outfit she wore home from the hospital, her christening gown, first rattle, first baby doll, first blanket and more stuff in a box in the attic. With my mom as our kids got older she would give them something of ours from when we were small, the rest she still keeps for when they get married and then it will go to them. Their is nothing weird about it some people are just more sentimental than others and keep it because of that reason. same with pictures to me. It is no different to have all those photo albums with pictures of every milestone you do it to keep the memory there.
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