I want to get a tattoo of my child's name. Husband says I shouldn't unless I get my 2 stepkids names as well.

I don%26#039;t think it%26#039;s right that my husband says I should get a tattoo of all three of the kid%26#039;s names and not just my biological child or not get a tattoo at all. I love my baby and I think it would be nice to get my first tattoo of her name, it%26#039;s forever and she will always be my daughter. I think my step-kids would understand that I am not their biological mom so it wouldn%26#039;t be offensive to them. I do not ever want to not be married to my husband but just in case I would never get his name tattooed on me and for that same reason I would not get his kid%26#039;s names tattooed on me, either. Anyone agree with me? Even if you disagree, please give your advice. Please don%26#039;t be judgemental, you are not in my shoes. Thanks in advance...

I want to get a tattoo of my child%26#039;s name. Husband says I shouldn%26#039;t unless I get my 2 stepkids names as well.
I%26#039;m not sure if it%26#039;s right or wrong for you to get a tattoo of your child%26#039;s name and not get a tattoo of your step children%26#039;s names, but by doing so you are definitely communicating to your step children that you see your own child differently than you see them. Your decision has the potential to affect your future relationships with your stepchildren. I recommend not getting the tattoo. Why risk hurting anyone%26#039;s feelings? Besides, there are better ways to show your commitment and love to your child.
Reply:I%26#039;m not so sure that I agree with this as the Best Answer, but to some it makes sense. Still plan on getting the tattoo. Thanks for everyone%26#039;s input! Report It

Reply:I agree. If he wants a tatoo of all 3 kids, let him get it. They are all biologically his.





This baby is YOURS, a part of you. It will not minimize your love for your step-children................regardless of your love for them, they are not a part of you.





Tell their mom or your husband to tattoo their names on themselves.
Reply:your body, your tattoo...





i would probably never get one; however, if i wanted one, NO MAN would tell me i couldn%26#039;t...i doubt that!
Reply:I think its great you want to get your sons name on your body. And your heart is in the right direction. But I think you need to put all the childrens feelings before yours. If this will hurt them then dont do it.





The children should always come first.
Reply:Ok...I did this...I have my husband%26#039;s name (which conveniently is my son%26#039;s name also) tattooed on my lower back. I have NO INTENTION of ever leaving my husband. I have 3 step-daughters and I love them all dearly. I got a tattoo with all of their initials in it. I did this because no matter what...I will always love them and that will never change. I think that you should do what you want to do. It is your tattoo and not anyone elses...if you are really worried about it...get it where only you and your husband can see it.
Reply:If you ever tattoo names on your body it is the names of your parents, your children, or a very dear and very close deceased friend. Like it or not your step children are not blood, and even though you love them they are NOT of your body.





In the end it is your body to decorate as you see fit. Try to get the tattoo in a spot that won%26#039;t move too much as you age, and in a spot that can be covered easily while your at work. Don%26#039;t get too elaborate as tattoo%26#039;s distort with time.
Reply:You should tell him to go get their mother to get their names on her.Your child is yours and you have the right to show ownership.But you aren%26#039;t their mother and they may not appreciate you putting their names on your body.Tell him to get a life and get a tattoo of their names on his body if he is so found of the idea.And has for the holy than thou idiots whom say a tattoo is trashy.They are just dumb-asses.And they probably wouldn%26#039;t have the guts to get one themselves.I have my hubby%26#039;s name tattooed on my right ankle in a rose.I am getting one of my son on my left.Just a heads up.It can be painful if your are a person sensitive to needle pricks.
Reply:would you make a difference in them any other way? it doesn%26#039;t matter that the kids aren%26#039;t yours.. you should love them like they are... if you don%26#039;t want to get their name tattooed on you, thats your business, you will be the one explaining to the kids though why only the one name is there.
Reply:I agree with Earl.


Do you really want to be a mom with a tattoo or tattoos or, even worse, a granny with tattoos one day?
Reply:I would not put there names on myself if I was you. Your child came from you and the others did not blood for blood.
Reply:although it sounds unfair...your analogy of step children is understandable...
Reply:the problem is solved easily...don%26#039;t get any tatooes...very bad idea, very divisive in your marriage, and if your step kids like you or love you, I cannot imagine your taking a chance on hurting them. What is really the issue here? It certainly is not a tatoo, is it? If you have a good marriage, I cannot think of a better way to worsen it..your husband loves all his kids...you love one. This is trouble waiting to happen. Don%26#039;t be in a rush to have your husband%26#039;s name tatooed on your body.. if you were to do this to me, you would need laser removal before to long. NO ONE messes with my kid%26#039;s feelings when they easily could have avoided it. Good luck and peace.
Reply:well u r right 100% i think they r u%26#039;r step kids... there not u%26#039;r kids by blood... %26amp; well all i have 2 say is that u r 100% right %26amp; if he don%26#039;t like it then just w/e he%26#039;s not u%26#039;r boss... is he??? well anyway she is u%26#039;r first child so do it... i%26#039;m sure it will look nice %26amp; u%26#039;r step children shouldn%26#039;t mind... unless they call u mom?!?! or do they call u by like a nick name or u%26#039;r first name... well hope u%26#039;r tattoo looks great ~Mary~
Reply:I totally agree with you it is not fair of him to ask you to get somebody Else%26#039;s kids tattooed on you I feel that he is being selfish. It is not that you don%26#039;t love his kids it just that a mother have a special bond with her kids and that is all that you are trying to express tell him to chill and think of you and your feelings!!!!!!!!!
Reply:Do not get ANY tattoos..
Reply:He%26#039;s being controlling ... girl go get your baby%26#039;s name tattooed on you ... it%26#039;s your body ... that%26#039;s ridiculous ... good luck ... I would be pissed ... he needs to get over it and move on ... do something for all three of them like name a star or something with your last name ... or go get family pictures taken ... !
Reply:Yeah, I agree with some of those above.... tatoos look trashy and cheap.... I%26#039;d be embarrassed as heck if my mom did that... yeacko
Reply:I agree with you, if you want to get your daughters name tattooed on you that is fine, he shouldn%26#039;t expect you to do the same full name with the three step kids maybe get a rose or something with their intials in it or get one where they won%26#039;t see it while i hope it never happens you and your husband may get a divorce do you want kids names on you that aren%26#039;t yours I have a 12 yr old stepdaughter and i was a stepdaughter and still am one myself. Some parents just expect us as people coming into the relationship to just automatically pick up their kids and put them on a freakin pedestal and if we make one mistake it is like the whole world has ended but they can do whatever they want to thier kids untill you are a step parent you have NO RIGHT to judge others who are step parents untill you know what it is like. As long as you continue to treat ALL the kids bio and step fairly i see nothing wrong with it.
Reply:I totally agree with you for the same exact reasons. One never know what the future holds, we all want our marriage to be forever and we work hard at it but there is no guaranty in life. I would not get the tattoo to avoid disputes or I would get something else that is not so controversial to my partners eyes.
Reply:I have 2 stepchildren myself who are now grown and gone. They are not mine by birth but by heart. It is impossible to make one and all happy. Try compromise, maybe your baby%26#039;s name and also the other childrens initials in a heart or scroll work. It took us years to get everyone happy but we did it with compromise. Good luck and best wishes
Reply:How would you feel if your mom or dad had your name tattooed on them? I don%26#039;t think your child will think it is cool at all! I would not do it. You can get a tattoo but pick something you like not your child%26#039;s name.
Reply:I don%26#039;t see anything wrong with getting a tattoo of your child%26#039;s name. You really have no reason getting a tattoo with the stepchildren%26#039;s names because afterall you have given birth to your child and not to the stepchildren. I am sure that you love the stepchildren as much as your own but there is no better love than your childrens. I love tattoos as long as they are small.
Reply:if you feel that you don%26#039;t want to get your two step kids named tattooed on your body, than don%26#039;t. you know that your biological child will always be YOURS. but what you said is exactly right, take your own advise because i agree with it 100%
Reply:Well if you must get a tattoo why not have one with the kids or something but no names maybe a nice picture kid minded, think of the other kids they would be may be a little bit hurt or feel left out there.and your husband is probably coming from that point may be..good luck.
Reply:I can understand you wanting to just have your bio child%26#039;s name tattooed on you, but I can also understand your husbands point as well. He is trying to take up for his children and does not want them to feel unloved by you. and so if his children see that you have not tattooed their name on your body...then to them it says that you do not love them. and it is all about your baby. It is a strange situation to be in, but you really need to know that even though this is your bio child....it affects his other children as well. I would suggest not getting tattooed, unless the 2 of you break up. by doing so may also cause jealously between your child and the step children, and there is going to be enough of that anyway.
Reply:I would never have my stepkids names tattoo%26#039;d on my body. They AREN%26#039;T my kids!! I totally hear you, think that your hubs is taking it a little personal and a little too far.---That would be like having my ex%26#039;s name tattoo%26#039;d on my body along with my husband. ;)





EEEWWW!! lol....
Reply:First of all it is your body and your should be able to do with it what you want! Your husband should be able to respect that and understand what you want to do....sounds like there is more going on then a simple tattoo!! She is your first born and if that is what you want to do then he should be supportive of that. Does he have his kids names on his body? If so then he should understand.....hope this helps!
Reply:I think anything you decide to put on YOUR body should be up to you. I don%26#039;t think I would put my step child%26#039;s name on my body either. Your child is just that your child by all means if you only wish to have your child%26#039;s name, then only get your child%26#039;s name.................. Your body, Your choice......
Reply:He%26#039;s right! It%26#039;s not fair to your stepkids! You can show your love in many ways besides the stamp! Besides, since the baby won%26#039;t read for at least several years, it would be meaningless to her.
Reply:Incredibly tacky.
Reply:Tattoo%26#039;s are trashy. Avoid this problem by not getting one.



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