Friends advice? Ungrateful? Or just thoughtless? Or both?!?

I made friends with a woman I met at my child%26#039;s nursery. Although we are very different the kids get on really well and we meet regularly. I feel like I am more of a friend to her than the other way round at times. The issue is that she did not even get me a card for my 40th, did not get me anything when I got married this August after saying both times that she was looking for something and would buy us a present soon! I do not expect it from people but I feel that she has made no effort and has made too many promises. For eg she was going to help me buy shoes for the wedding, help me on the day, etc but nothing materialised - same as the presents or cards. I have made her and her child as well as husband dinner and lunch on many, many occasions but this is hardly ever reciprocated. So I feel that I give a lot and do not get much back. I feel really pissed off basically and wonder what others would do in such a situation. Also she is about to move miles away in 3 wks time.

Friends advice? Ungrateful? Or just thoughtless? Or both?!?
Stay pleasant with her till she goes, bid her a fond fair well. Promise to post a card, even a house warming present, invite her to arrange to meet for coffee. Then oops forget! Then get on with your life, meet new friends who don%26#039;t take you for granted.
Reply:I would be looking forward to the move,she is a taker not a giver,i am sure you can find far more genuine people than her.
Reply:she might not have the money for things like that and doesn%26#039;t want to feel stupid. I would let her move and thats the end of that. If you don%26#039;t feel good about that, talk to her and see whats going on. But like you said you have nothing in common and kids can always get other friends. Tell your child that they moved far away and he/she won%26#039;t be seeing him/her that much anymore. Don%26#039;t say no more cause they might start crying
Reply:u know what?? im ticked off at her just by reading about it!! im a kid, and i know how your child would feel if he /she lost a dear friend. maybe you could just forget about the useless woman tough. only meeting when possible~~ dont go out of your wayto make her happy if you arent getting anything back!!


shes totally using you!!
Reply:maybe she forgot hun don%26#039;t worry she still likes you.





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Reply:Friends yes, %26amp; the kids are. But are sure she is feeling on the same level as you. Some people have trouble expressing themselves. Maybe distance will be okay to.
Reply:This woman is not your friend - she merely says these things to make you think she is; then she doesn%26#039;t follow through. Start ignoring her...once she moves miles away, you will most likely be rid of her - thank God!!!
Reply:well talk to her it cant be that bad she might have short trem lost


or might not have the money or mabey she might be mad but acting nice just to get you pissed.
Reply:I would be pleased that she is moving away it will save any arguments that could have materialised with the situation you are in. I would, beings she is moving, just be friendly but do not offer any help or leaving presents or arrange to meet etc. she is not worth it, just a taker there are plenty of those sort about.
Reply:Personally I wouldn%26#039;t be friends with someone who treats you that way. Maybe she is jealous? Who knows but she seems mean-spirited and selfish. Be glad she is moving soon! :)



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